Source: Being Mary Jane

Who watches Being Mary Jane? It comes on BET on Tuesday nights, and is about Mary Jane Paul – played by Gabrielle Union – a successful broadcast journalist moving through her career and life while struggling to find “Mr. Right”.

At 38 years old, with no Mr. Right, and a yearning to have children of her own, Mary Jane embarks on a journey to do what most career-driven women of today are doing these days: freezing their eggs. I talked about that just last week here.
However, Mary Jane, instead of going through this process privately, she chose to pimp out her uterus for the sake of her career by accepting to subject herself to “free” fertility treatments.  Unfortunately, Mary Jane’s fertility treatments were unsuccessful.  To make
matters worse, her results were blasted live for the world to see and hear.  Mary Jane had no time to process the bad news, and was told to continue to keep recording for the sake of the story. And through all of this, her friends, her close friends had not one ounce of compassion.  Her friend Mark said to her, “It is a step up from being an old ho.” Prior to that, Mary Jane asked her friend and co-worker, Kara Lynch “Where was your compassion?  That’s what I needed, your compassion.”  I think a lot of women can relate to that. Sometimes you don’t need to hear that you should pray as if you haven’t, or stop stressing or stop thinking about it. You just need compassion and empathy.
Angry, frustrated, and confused, Mary Jane asks her doctor the same questions many women struggling with infertility ask when going through this, such as the following:
“What went wrong?”
Could I have taken my medications wrong?
“You said 38 isn’t old, old!”
Mary Jane’s doctor suggested that she can always try another round of hormones at a higher dosage.Mary Jane then wonders just how many more times she would have to go through this.  Fertility is unpredictable and can affect anyone at any age.  Mary Jane just figured this out late in the game.
I’m happy that shows like Being Mary Jane are touching on real life issues.   Like Mark, Mary Jane’s friend stated, “A lot of viewers can relate to what you’re going through.” Although Mary Jane decided to not continue the process in order to freeze her eggs, she did decide to move forward with the 4 eggs produced during her fertility treatments.  I hope for Mary Jane’s character that she at least gets a happy ending – a baby of her own.
Gabrielle Union, as someone who openly discussed her inability to have children even though she wants to, I wonder how playing this role has affected her.

What did you think of the last episode of Being Mary Jane? Can you or someone you know relate?


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  • I love this show. I question pretty much all of the decisions she makes, but I think that’s why I love the show -it’s so true to the wacked out decisions we can make when we’re desperate for things to appear (or disappear) in our lives. And I cannot believe she decided to go through with that on television… smh.

    • A lot of the decisions she makes are irresponsible, but I think there are women out there who can relate to her. I’m all for raising awareness, but certain things I don’t believe need to be televised.

  • I DVR this show and it’s entertaining for the most part. I can’t relate to Mary Janes lifestyle but I do love the perspective of her character. I had no idea that she had fertility issues.

    • Yes… In an interview with Uptown Magazine, Union confessed that she’s having a hard time conceiving her first child. “I think my brain and my heart are screaming baby fever. My ovaries, however, they’re coughing up dust,” she said. “Yes, it’s in my heart and my mind, and we’ll see if my body catches up with that.”

  • I’ve never watched BMJ, but I know the struggle of failed fertility treatments with people close to me. I hope they showcase this story properly!

    • It’s a good show. I’m so happy they’ve slowed down with her sleeping around.

  • I’ve never watched this one. Not particularly my thing. I have far too many other shows to catch! LOL. But it sounds like she is having a bit of a rough go at it.

    • I understand you not watching lol I think I would give you the side eye lol

  • I am behind on episodes but one of the reasons I like this show a lot is that it does touch on real issues that women are facing. Props to Creator Mara Brock Akil and Gabrielle for doing an episode like this.

    • Ooops I probably should have posted that this was a spoiler? It really is a good show. I’m happy to see the direction it is going.

  • Tiffani G

    I never really got into MJ, but I watch if none of my other shows are on. It’s interesting to see television begin to tackle more serious issues. I have friends who have struggled with infertility and I’ve seen how difficult it can be.Kudos to BET for shedding light on the process. -Tiffani G from MyMommyVents

    • I like this show! Yes, I think using shows like these as platforms to talk about real issues.