Monica J. of
So Family Online is a fellow Essence Mom.
She and her significant other have are in their mid to late 30’s, and have been
trying to conceive for a year; however, due to a recent surgery, they have to postpone TTC for 6 months.
you tell people you’re trying to conceive or did you keep it a secret?
I spoke to family members about it because I knew something was wrong when I
wasn’t having any luck conceiving.
you feel pressure from your spouse, family or friends to have a baby? If so,
how does that make you feel and how do you deal with it?
do feel slight pressure from family members, but I don’t believe they realize
that they add pressure. They are all just excited about us possibly creating a
new life and growing our family.
did you realize you were unable to conceive naturally? How did you feel?
conceiving is different. I’m at the point in my journey where I haven’t been
told I can’t conceive naturally, but I’m aware that I’ve hit some bumps in the
road. I have an amazing doctor guiding me through this important time in my
life. Due to a large fibroid pushing on my left Fallopian tube I was experiencing problems with conceiving. I also lost my right ovary 2 years ago,
so it’s extremely important that my left ovary and Fallopian tube are free from
obstruction. My doctor believes this may have been the reason I have not been
able to conceive. I recently had all of my fibroids removed.
does the word ‘infertility’ make you feel?
word infertility scares me. It doesn’t make me feel there are no options, but
it definitely brings up feelings of frustration and nervousness.
do you believe is the biggest misconception about infertility?
biggest misconception about infertility, in my opinion, is that women have no
options once that word is introduced.
has infertility and TTC affected your personal relationships?
the process of conceiving and it has allowed me to share my story with other
women. This journey has also opened me up to talking to other women and
listening to their stories. I have learned so much from other women.
have you learned about yourself and personal relationships through this
than I thought. My relationship with my significant other has become stronger
and he’s been my strength when I’m down and constant support system.
has been your biggest source of strength and support throughout your journey
significant other and my mother.
do you deal with the stress of TTC?
make sure to communicate with my family, friends and those around me. I also
relieve a lot stress through dance classes. It feels good to release stress on
the dance floor to the beat of drums. I love West African dance.
would you tell other women and couples struggling with infertility and losing hope of ever getting pregnant?
is always another way. Things may not go the way you planned it but never give
up and be open to listen to different options.
do you think it’s important for you to share your story about infertility and
important to know and understand the struggles of other women and for women to
know they are not the only ones dealing with complications. Someone may learn
from my story, because I have learned from so many other women.
there anything you would have done differently?
absolutely not. I truly believe everything happens for a reason. This is the
path in life I was given and I’m taking it.
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